Who Am I?

An Introduction

Who am I? That's a great question — one we ask ourselves many times over the course of our lifetime, right?

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When I first sat down to write this introduction post, I hesitated. I balked at the idea of talking about myself (who wants to hear all that blabbing?) let alone trying to sum up all that I "am."

I've been sitting with this question for a while now, and though I realize we're all work-in-progresses, I am pleasantly surprised with how content I am with the person I've become. {side note: this is actually a huge part of my recovery}.

That graphic with my picture? The old Jade would never share that kind of picture publicly. I would have berated myself for taking it in the first place and then tell myself that people would think I was: "silly," too "vain," too "fake." But I'm not the old Jade and I'm proud of who I am and who I've become. I care more about what I think about myself rather than what other people think of me. It's been a long road to acceptance and a lot of hard work, but my recovery taught me that there's more to life than pleasing other people. The most genuine way to please people is by giving back.

So before I go into the obligatory "origin story" of how I fell into the Trauma Recovery Coaching program, I want you to get to know me. Because if you don't know who's at the end of the computer screen/phone call, it can be terrifying to reach out for the help you think you might need or want. And you deserve help!

Pretty Obvious Things:

I'm a Pet Mama to 7 furry babies and 1 non-furry baby (a Sphynx cat)

I'm a proud #potterhead and my house is technically Gryffindor but I really think I belong in Ravenclaw

Coffee and Coffee Cake are my weaknesses

I'm an author

My favorite holiday is Halloween

My favorite movie is Pretty Woman but I much prefer action/thriller movies to romances!

I love listening to 80's and 90's music and I still love the band Hanson

I have 10 tattoos and adore my tattoo artist. We talk about books!

I've held down a lot of jobs: a dairy queen superstar (ha, ha) // sandwich artiste (have to say it right!) // clothing store employee // server and waitress // movie store employee // pet store employee // nanny (short-lived) // janitor // mental health receptionist // book store employee // money management coordinator // 911 dispatcher // copywriter // author // barista // virtual assistant // business owner // director of operations // certified trauma recovery coach.

I hope you got a little sense of who I am and if I'm someone you'd like to interact with. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, (side note: there's always going to be someone who doesn't like your kind of tea. It's life.) but I'd like to think I'm a pretty cool person to know. And if those delightful tidbits didn't satisfy your curiosity then read on, friend, because here's my "origin" story I promised you:

I am a trauma survivor. I've written about my trauma a bit (here and here). I've always had this nagging feeling growing up. A voice that whispered, "you're meant to help people." I largely ignored this voice for most of my life for various lame reasons but mostly because I was young. Last year, I decided to stop ignoring the voice and instead, answer back.

I signed up for the Initial Trauma Recovery Coaching Certification program in the fall of 2017. I honestly don't even remember how I stumbled upon a Facebook post made by Bobbi Parish, but I think it's fate that I did. The post was about the launch of the Trauma Recovery Coaching Certification upcoming class and I was a little in awe. I'd never heard of such a thing. Surely it was for already established therapist and psychologists, right? But then I was surprised again that it was for anyone serious about wanting to advocate for trauma survivors. It took me until the third week of class to shake off those "fraud-y" feelings that I didn't belong in the course. But then, I realized that the best education someone kind gets for this type of work is the real-life experience. For the first time in my life, being a trauma survivor was an advantage and not a hindrance as I've seen it my whole life.

I learned that I already had all the most important tools in my shed:

  • Experience

  • Compassion

  • Understanding

  • The courage to keep an open mind

  • The desire to learn

  • The desire to help

It's been a wild last 10 months but I'm so grateful for the opportunities and changes that have come up for me because of one big decision:

To answer the voice that never gave up whispering in my ear.